For many years, the word ‘messy’ has always been a word in my vocabulary. Messy hair, messy heart, messy words, messy school supplies, and especially, messy room. No part of my life has ever been “perfect and put together.” — and because of that I spent a few months held back in chains because I felt like I had to be perfect.
I’m just going to break it down for y’all, okay?
You will never reach perfection.
It is an impossible goal. Completely unreachable for a human here on earth. I mean, no chance. Not even an ounce. I learned this early in my teenage years, and even though there are days that I struggle with this, it still saved me from so much pain.
Recently a friend messaged me through Instagram, and kinda spilled her heart out to me because she never felt like she was “good enough.” I was stunned, honestly. I mean, this girl IS GORGEOUS. She has the prettiest hair, skin, eyes, and style I’ve ever seen. So you can imagine my response while reading this message.
I think it is important (I mean duh, I’m writing a blog post about it) for us to realize what kind of world we live in and really decide what type of mindset we want to have. I know that doesn’t make sense — so let me explain.
This world is cold. That is the only way I can figure out how to describe it. We live in a generation of cell phones, and perfect people posting perfect pictures on their perfect Instagram feed, and because of that our idea of how life should be lived has been altered. The beautiful girls who post stunning bikini pictures are showing us a highlight reel. They aren’t going to post a bikini picture after they ate 12 bagel bites in one sitting.
I don’t want you to be discouraged because you are not her.
As a photographer, I know what goes into making a “perfect” photo. Retouching, lighting, certain poses. They all can make a complete difference on our appearance. AND I THINK WE ALL NEED TO COME TO THAT UNDERSTANDING.
We are a mess, and it is perfectly okay.
And I’m hoping that our mindset will change because of that. Just because we don’t have Alexis Ren’s waist, Kylie Jenner’s makeup, and any other quality that most have celebrities have, does not mean we are any less beautiful.
So here is my hope for you. I want you to CHOOSE your messy life every morning. I hope that when you roll out of bed (eye boogers & unbrushed hair included), I hope that you stand in front of that mirror, stare at yourself and say, “I am a mess, but I am the most lovely mess I have ever seen.” Embrace the fact that you will never reach perfection. For some people that’s so hard, but when you let go of that expectation of perfection you will find joy beyond comparison.
Quit hiding your magic. The world is ready for you.
About the Author.
Brittany Merrill is an eighteen year old senior who lives by the quote, "Life isn't perfect, but your outfit can be." She is passionate about Jesus, setting new trends, and french fries.